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"They Call Us Sugar Mummies" - Abuja Women Who Marry Younger Men Protest

The discrimination against women marrying younger men in the society has led some women in the  Federal Capital city of Abuja to protest.

Speaking to the News Agency of Nigeria in Abuja, some women in the FCT, on Thursday, decried discrimination in Nigeria against women marrying younger men.

Some of the women alleged that they had been discriminated, judged and labelled “sugar mummy” for their marriage to men they are older than.

A businesswoman identified as Esther David, said she was five years older than her husband, who is also into the same provision business with her.

She said her decision to marry her husband was borne out of love, admiration and respect she had for him, and not because she was desperate to get married as alleged by some persons.

“Our society tends to judge women negatively for marrying younger men, even if that relationship was borne out of love and respect for each other.

“But the same society sees nothing wrong if a man marries someone that he is old enough to even be her grandfather," she lamented.

According to her, she faced a lot of challenges from her in-laws due to the age difference before she was accepted as his wife, despite performing the traditional, Christian and even the court wedding.

A mother of two, Bose Ade, said even though she was eight years older than her husband, whom she has been married to for over a decade, her being older had not affected the love, affection and respect they had for each other.

“At first, it was very difficult for me to accept his marriage proposal because I was far older than him with over eight years.

“But I was later convinced by his persistence and support from his family that he was not dissuaded by our age differences,” Mrs. Ade said.

However, she added that even though she was accepted by her in-laws, she still faces discrimination from some of his relatives and in the neighbourhood they reside in.

According to her, she ignores all the subtle attacks on her person, urging other women that are facing similar challenges to ignore gossip and concentrate on building their homes.

“I don’t have problem with in-laws, it is just some distant relatives of his and people in our area who still gossip and call me names like old woman, and all sorts because he looks younger than I do.

“I ignore them and make sure I exhibit love and affection for my husband just to spite them.”

However, Fatima Musa, an unemployed graduate said she cannot marry a younger man because the society would see her as “desperate’’ and she may not get the respect she deserves from him.

“Women naturally look older than men. So if you marry someone younger in age, one might end up looking like his mother or elder sister than his wife, especially when one starts bearing children.”

On his part, Idris Samaila said there was nothing wrong in a woman marrying a man she is older than, as long as mutual trust, respect and love exists between them.

“Age is just a figure that people put so much emphasis on. It does not matter if a woman is older than her husband or the husband is older than the wife as it is commonly practiced in our society.

“The main issue we should be concerned about is how to build our homes within the tenets of our religious believes, as well as sharing love and understanding," Mr. Samaila posited.

He said the fear of marrying a younger man by some women who feel the age difference might bring disrespect between them, was uncalled for, as respect was earned.

“The claim that marrying a younger man would make him disrespectful to one in the future is a flimsy excuse, because I have seen instances where a matured man marries a woman like his daughter’s age mate and she still does not have respect for him.’’

He said Nigerians should encourage the sanctity of marriage within the religious or traditional belief so as to reduce the rate of illegitimate children in the society.

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